Sex Toys
It’s time to get out the toy box. What delights will you choose to play with today?
Hello friends of Sex Discussions,
Thanks for joining in on this spicy conversation today. Let’s check out objects that increase intimate pleasures.
Sex toys are a bit of a taboo topic for many people. Having worked in stores that sold adult items such as vibrators, dildos and butt plugs, I can say with certainty that some people are really shy about purchasing, using or even talking about sex toys.
There are myths around them as well. Too many people feel that they can be a threat to a partnership when in fact they can be a delightful enhancement to a couples sex life.
One way to loosen up about the idea of buying sex toys is to go to an adult shop with people you trust: a group of friends, a best friend or lovers. Plan in advance to be curious and never forget your sense of humor. There are some wild and unusual things to be found.
If you are past the idea of these being a threat to your partnership, how do you feel about using them for solo play? And if you do use them for solo play, would you feel embarrassed if other people knew this about you?
Are sex toys and what to do with them a topic you would be comfortable bringing up at a party or social gathering? Yes, there is a time and place for everything, so don’t forget tact here. But have you ever had a discussion at a coffee shop with a close friend about vibrators, cock rings or other erotic items? The eaves dropping people sitting in the next booth over might be secretly smiling.
How do you choose sex toys, if in fact you would like to buy them from time to time? The first question to ask is what do you want to use it for?
Do you like a certain buzz from a specifically shaped vibrator? Or are you curious about the feel and weight of glass or metal? Does a penis stroker look interesting? Would sex prop furniture be something you would consider for getting into new sex positions?
What turns you on and what are you curious about? These are all questions to consider prior to your trip to the store. Check online first for ideas and erotic inspiration. www.vavavooom.com is a great place to visit online, or in person if you’re in Western North Carolina - I say this because they research their products throughly and only carry body safe items.
The sex toy market exploded in 2020-2021. There are more choices than ever, so I doubt anyone could honestly complain that they don’t see something they like.
Hints on purchases:
Sex toys can be used on pretty much any part of the body. There are certain exceptions, like making sure you have a proper base on an anal toy - if you know any emergency room doctors that are willing to have this conversation, you’ll get some pretty wild stories about the things they have had to retrieve from peoples butts.
There are some sexy items to be found in a grocery store. Use your imagination. Most people immediately think cucumbers. But what about scarves for a restraint or a hand held mirror for genital viewing from the beauty aisle? Or wooden spoons for spanking?
USB recharging items vs batteries? A personal preference, but batteries can get expensive if you fall in love with your battery operated attitude adjuster.
Lube. Don’t forget the lube. I promise you’ll thank me for this hint. Organic and unscented/unflavored are healthier for the gentle parts of your body. Some people even like coconut oil. It’s a matter of personal choice. And it’s always good to switch it up from time to time.
In lubes, avoid ingredients such as propylene glycol, petroleum oils, parabens, glycerine, fragrances, sugars, flavors and double check anything listed that is unknown and most likely difficult to pronounce. I’m quite firm on KY being a big NO.
Water based lubes are best for pretty much any occasion. Please avoid using silicone based lubes with silicone based toys, as the silicone against the silicone can create a toxic reaction in or on your body.
If you have further questions on lube, like ingredients to look for, send me a note. I’m happy to answer questions about these types of products.
After working in a couple of different sex shops, I have come to enjoy sharing my knowledge from this experience with my clients. There are a lot of choices in this world so don’t be timid about exploring the variety of websites and stores available for “Adult Toys”.
And if you’re an old pro at shopping sex stores, take a curious friend that’s never been before. It will be a day they will always remember.
I remember bumping into a couple of horny lesbian type friends in a fruit and vegetable store in Canberra, years ago. Canberra is Australia's Washington DC, a city of government somewhat off the beaten track for agricultural produce. Anyway, when we noticed my friend I asked how the shopping was going... She replied, "I hate living in Canberra! All the vegetables are flaccid!". She was holding a zucchini at the time!